As someone who’s founded eight companies, guided dozens of others, and walked the fine line between success and failure, I can tell you, that the hardest part of being an entrepreneur is knowing when to let go of the baby.
Take one of my recent ventures. It was a great idea on paper, and I poured everything into it, but the market just wasn’t biting. At first, I told myself we just needed more time and more features. Then I thought we were too early and a pivot would solve things. But deep down, I knew something was not right. Having launched several previously I wondered if the writing was on the wall. Walking away felt like admitting defeat. But holding on too long? That’s where you really lose. And not just the business, but your time, energy, and chance to start fresh. The old saying rings true. One door closes and another opens, if you let it!
The Reality
The reality is, that founders often fall into the “sunk-cost fallacy”. “We’ve invested so much, time and money (Sometimes investor’s money) we can’t walk away now.” But here’s the thing: sometimes, the smartest move is cutting your losses and moving on. That doesn’t mean you failed; it means you’re making space for the next thing, the better thing. Every failure taught me more than any success ever did.
When you feel like you’re just keeping the lights on and not moving forward, it may be time to ask: Am I holding on because I still believe, or because I’m afraid of what’s next? It’s a tough call, but one that’ll save you in the long run. The quicker you recognize it’s time to pivot, or eventually walk away, the quicker you can get back to building something that really works.
So, when do you say goodbye to the baby? When the market’s been screaming “no” at you? When you’ve tweaked your product? When you’ve tried to get clever with messaging? The answer is yes to all of those. The truth is, the market’s not biting, no matter how much you sweeten the deal. After heaps of experimenting and pivoting until you’re dizzy, you’ve got to ask yourself: is this something the world actually needs now, later or ever? If it’s been a resounding “no” for ages, do the smart thing, stop trying to force it.
Or maybe there is a passion burn-out. You remember the early days, right? You’d stay up till 3 a.m. buzzing with excitement (Coke and Pizza) about your idea, convinced it was going to change everything. Now? You’d rather read your spam than deal with it. That’s a bad sign, mate. If you stay awake at night worrying or if you’ve lost that fire, it’s a sign the spark is gone, and you’re dragging your feet out of obligation, but to what and whom? If you don’t want to be working on it, there’s no way it’s going to survive. Your team and even your investors will be able to see that in your eyes.
The Bloody Cash Flow
And then there is bloody cash flow. You know the game, every startup deals with cash problems, but if you’re living in constant panic mode and always one step away from going bust, something’s not right, mate! I’m talking about those moments where you’re hoping for a miracle investor or at least for an investor to call you back, or simply trying to string things along with whatever you’ve got left in the bank. If that’s been your reality for months, you’re not building a company, you’re trying to survive a slow-motion train wreck. Better to call it a day and pour your energy into something that’s actually got legs.
And sure, you don’t want to seem like a failure. Nobody does. That’s the fear, right? We don’t want to be the founder who couldn’t hack it. But guess what? Failing makes you smarter. Yep, you heard me, the experience you get from messing up and watching things fall apart? That’s pure gold. That’s what makes you a better entrepreneur and one that is revered. Every stumble is a lesson, every failure is another stripe on your sleeve. You’ll walk away with battle scars, but you’ll be sharper, more resilient, and more equipped to crush it next time. You only fail if you don’t learn from it.
Letting go of your startup feels like sending your kid off to boarding school, but instead of waving them off with pride, you’re packing them up with a one-way ticket to “It didn’t work out” land. Man, it sucks. You want to hold on, to convince yourself you’re just this close to a breakthrough, but deep down, you know it’s time to let go. And yeah, it’s emotional. You’ll go through all the classic stages, denial, blaming, bargaining the whole deal. You might even cry into your laptop one night after a few too many scotch and cokes. It happens to the best of us, please, trust me, it really does.
They Are Not (your) Children
But here’s the thing, startups aren’t really like kids. You don’t just get one shot. Letting go of one doesn’t mean you’ll never create something amazing again. In fact, it’s the opposite. By letting go, you’re making space for something new, something better, something that’s going to make all those hard lessons worth it.
So, if your startup’s dying, don’t stand there trying to resuscitate it like it’s a scene from some melodramatic medical series. Pull the plug. Say your goodbyes and even mourn a little if you have to and then, get back, get ready and start building again! Because that’s what we entrepreneurs do.
We create, we fail, we learn, and we come back stronger. This isn’t the end. It’s just the beginning of whatever’s next.